I read an article a couple of nights ago about a transwoman who got married in Israel in January. She's a "blonde bombshell", and she is very proud of her end results. You don't hear much about trans people getting married. I assume this is because most people assimilate without much hoopla. They were married in a traditional Jewish ceremony. Her father didn't attend and his family doesn't "understand" his decision.
What decision is that? To get married? That's the only decision he made here. He has three children from a previous relationship, so bringing her into their life (and vice versa) is a huge decision. But how is that any different than getting a divorce and re-marrying? I don't understand how marrying a trans person is any different than marrying a non-trans person. You meet, you flirt, you fall in love, you decide to get married the exact same way.
If this decision is so varied from what society deems as normal, what kind of future is in store for me when I get married? Is my mom going to support me? Yes, as long as she feels I'm with the right person. Will my fiancé's parents condemn our union? Who's to say. I hope that I find a woman who has a tolerant family. Who will judge me on my character and the way I treat their daughter/sister/whatever instead of the body I was born into.
I love the fact that she wanted to broadcast their wedding to the whole country. I doubt it would be a big deal here in America. I realize it was a big deal when a man got pregnant (remember the trans man who still had his female reproductive system? I'll link it up.) I love that she's also "a million percent certain" that she and her new husband will have kids! This lady has fulfilled almost everything she wanted. She got married, saying "it's not like it's only permissible for gays and lesbians to marry" because in America, even they can't marry!
What if it were the other way around? What if gays and lesbians were the only ones who could get married? Do you think that there would be such an issue with straight people getting married? I highly doubt it. But I can guarantee you, much like 53% of American people, gay and lesbian couples would support the marriage of straight couples. I asked a few of my straight, non-trans friends their opinion. Survey says: 5 of 5 people support gay marriage because it isn't a religious decision, it's a personal (civil) decision. Most people "support happiness" over denying anyone the right to follow their dreams. My favorite quote: "It's fucking ridiculous that gays can't get married and they deserve it more than most (straight) couples."
I had someone ask me if I'm gay. I was taken aback by this question because I've never seen myself as a girl, so I've never seen myself as a lesbian. I explained that my mindset and my identity aligns with being a male and I've never been truly attracted to guys so I'm not gay. Yeah, I find physical attributes of some men attractive, but I'd never hop into the sack with them and enjoy myself. I won't lie to being attracted to women. I want what most straight men want: a wife, kids, a mortgage, car payment, a dog or two, a man cave, and a job that pays the bills so I can provide for my family. You know what? That's what most people in the world want, regardless of their orientation.
Gay couples want what straight people want. Debt, love, happiness, friends, a place to call home, a job where they're respected and valued. Call me trans if you want, it doesn't bother me because you're acknowledging that I'm a man and that is very important. But I'm just a man, giving my heart and soul for Life, Liberty, and the Pursuit of Happiness.
REFERENCES:
A Transgender Wedding, For The First Time in Israel. The Times of Israel, Michael Shmulovich, 2013
'Pregnant Man' Gives Birth to Girl. ABC News, Russell Gordon, 2008
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